Tuesday, December 1, 2009

The Drive Home from School

Today I received a phone call from Matthew's teacher at almost 1PM. He said there was a bit of a problem with Matthew. I thought something really awful must have happened and he was hurt or hurt someone. But no the teacher said the aide had to leave school to take his son to the Doctor and since the aide needs to ride with Matthew on the bus and this year the bus route has no other aides on the bus - so I had to go pick him up.

The teacher should have just said I need to pick up Matthew instead of mentioning some sort of problem with my son that did not exist. He needs to use his words better and not cause panic for the parent!

There are four students, two personal aides and one classroom aide along with the teacher, so basically it is 4 adults and 4 students. I asked how the aide was able to get to his car since he parks near my house to ride the bus. The other personal aide drove him during their break, which left just one aide with the teacher for that duration. He seemed quite frazzled on the phone because the other two aides leave earlier than the time school gets out. The same thing took place at the Elementary school where the other aides shift ended earlier so that left Matt's aide to help all the other kids instead of mine. This resulted in leaving his jacket or communication device at school with the aide being distracted with other students.

Matthew is the only boy in his class this year - this is Middle School - 6-8th grades in a MRS class - Mental Retardation Severe. I chose the school because they follow the traditional school calendar where other schools are year round with months off at various times of the year and not summer.

This other girl was at the same Elementary school as Matt in another classroom and is a classmate of his. The Mom takes public transportation to take the girl to school as she does not want to put her on the bus. Matt's aide and I have told her it is not a problem.

I gave her and the girl a ride home. The girl kept saying Hello in the car and likes to kiss hands and wave - she was fine back there next to Matthew who was chowing down on some fries from Mc Donalds. The Mom was constantly telling the girl to be quiet. I mentioned I would not mind if Matthew would say Hello and be so cheerful.

I felt bad for the girl who has such a sweet disposition and likes Matthew. H seemed fine with them being in the car for the drive home. I went to Target earlier today to look for a jacket for Matt since the weather here in Los Angeles is getting colder and rain is in the forecast. All Matt has to wear is a fleece jacket.

Matthew is not the type of kid that will try on clothes for me to see if they fit, so when I buy clothing I try to leave the pricetag on until he has tried the item on. I picked out this great looking orange four in one jacket, with a fleece/polyester reversible inside jacket, the outer jacket has the hood. I showed him the jacket and he wanted to put it on. Later he tried the fleece side of the other jacket and wanted to practice zippering on the orange jacket. He knew I was surprised he wanted to take part in this since he was smiling and quite happy with himself.

Sometimes it is the little things that brighten your day. Now if only I could hear him repeatedly say Hello.

18 comments:

Mrs. C said...

(((hugs)))

We are getting no ee-uu (no thank you) constantly. It's a mixed blessing! The jacket sounds very sharp. :]

tiffrutherf said...

Ahh the public school system, got to love it!

That was so nice of you to give them a ride.

We are getting snow on Thursday so I know what you mean about the jacket!

Stacie said...

I can see your frustrations with the school I am having some of my own frustrations with them. How wonderfulthat he tried on the jacket and awesome that he wants to practice zippering. Gotta love the little surprises that make you smile.

Tanya @ TeenAutism said...

I love envisioning Matt smiling with the jacket!

Corrie Howe said...

I'm with you. The little girl saying Hello sounds so sweet. However, if that's all I ever heard, then I'd be like the mom, a little tired of it. A mixed blessing. My son will get a song or phrase stuck on repeat. He has a beautiful singing voice, but after awhile....:-)

How do you feel about the name of the program considering the move to ban the word/name "retardation?"

Accidental Expert said...

Wow! Your son actually tried on clothes for you. How did you do it?

Slamdunk said...

I can see how the poor word choice by the school official would be problematic.

Our youngest son was recently diagnosed with an autism-related disorder. It has been an educational experience for the family.

G said...

Thats excellent he likes the jacket.

Sue said...

Hi Bonnie,
What a great blog. I am going to make a point of visiting you more often. You put a smile on my face. I have spent the past 2 years working with a non verbal 11 year old to get him talking. I was feeling very discouraged and then suddenly he found his words! Now I am constantly asking him to wait his turn to speak or to stop chatting but I love the sound of his voice :) Happy New Year!

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Elizabeth Channel said...

So glad to see you are still blogging! We just entered the public school system ourselves and it's interesting to say the least! Hope you are well!

Adoption of Jane said...

Drives me Crazy when the School says somethings wrong without Clarifying it or choosing better words!!

Can Diet Help Autism ? said...

The public school system as it stands today has a lot of improvement to make before special need students are fully assisted in the ideal sense.

Lizze said...

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Monica Swain said...

I saw you recommended Temples movie on the side of your blog. I also recommend reading the book. I had the pleasure of hearing her speak at the Autism Speaks conference. She is a wonderful lady. love the blog. I also write a blog. My son is 7 and has Asperger's Syndrome.

NeverADullMoment said...

Thanks for visiting my blog today. My son won't try stuff on for me either. We make a lot of return trips. lol I am looking forward to reading more of your blog!
http://lifewithour9.blogspot.com

Susan Levy said...

Keep up the good work Bonnie! Best, Susan, Taking the Awe out of Autism, http/www.aweoutofautism.blogspot.com

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